Over this past week I picked the brains of three of my single tico friends, on how one would go about getting a date with one of them. Most of their answers where very similar. For the sake of this blog they will be known as, Mae 1, 2, and 3.
First thing I would like to say is that this is not advice for picking up any random guy in the bar. Let’s face it anyone can get with a “drunk loser”. This is just a little advice on how to go about asking out a nice Tico guy you might meet at VERITAS.
Basically, if you’re going to ask one of these guys out you can’t just say, “Hey you’re hot. You know what else is hot? Coffee… why don’t we get some?” No, no… with these guys you have to start a conversation before they will think about spending time with you one on one.
Q 1. If a girl comes up to you and asks you out, what will help her get a “yes?”
Mae 1, 2, and 3 It depended on whether or not they like her enough to even want to hang out with her as a friend. If they want to spend more time with her, the first few times out would be just as friends in order to get to know each other. The three of them said they are looking for someone that they can have conversations with, is fun for them to be around, and who wants to get out and do things.
Q 2. If a girl asks you to hang out as friends, do you automatically think that she really wants something more, and is just using the friend excuse?
Mae 1 and 3. Of course we are going to think that she wants something more than just friends. The reason for this is because in Costa Rica it is not normal for a girl to ask a guy out, even to just hang out. Although, they both said they see it a little differently when a “Gringa” asks them to hang out because we are not from the same culture. Because of this, Mae 1 said he would prefer to go someplace public so as not to confuse things in the beginning.
Mae 2. When someone wants to just be friends or wants something more, they almost always show their verbal and body language, and if not then I try not to assume anything and just see what happens.
Tico’s don´t like to say “no” so I asked my friends how they would handle telling someone that they don’t want to hang out with them, more specifically:
Q 3. Would you use procrastination and last minute cancelling of a date instead of saying “no”.
Mae 3. Well, of course the truth is that this happens here a lot and not just from the guys but from the women as well. If she is not the kind of person I want to hang out with, when she asks I will tell her no.
Written by Kimberly Barker, Social Media Journalist